Standard male procedure

Sometimes I wonder if boys get handed a book when they hit puberty called "How To Act Like A Typical Male" and are forced to read it cover to cover. It seems to me, well, at least seems to be the case in every guy that I date, that all men act the same!

In the case of one of the guys, he is a friend of a close friend -- basically in my immediate circle of friends. We all know how messy that can be when dating friends (trust me, I know how it goes all too well) but that's the thing -- NOT ONCE did I say anything to this kid about dating! I've come to realize that guys just expect girls to want relationships. Sorry, but I'm not exactly looking to jump right into his and hers toothbrushes and grocery shopping dates. How dare he assume that. Just because I'm a woman I'm not allowed to have a guy friend to hook up with occassionally? I've not heard from him since the last time I saw him, which included an awkward night in which he completely ignored me to hang out with our other friends. His reaction was childish and completely unecessary: be an adult and talk to me about what's going on in your head instead of treating me like a leper.

Another guy who fits the bill is among the people who I play a co-ed sport with. We've always had a flirty thing but it's not what you would consider serious. We started texting a little bit a few months ago, then recently, he invited me over and subsequently text me a few random drunk texts one Saturday night. I never met up with him, but it was interesting that he took it to that point. Then, after his suggestion, he disappeared too! No texts, no calls. Was he embarrassed? Or just over it? Then yesterday he texted me, and added in a little sexual innuendo. I'm just not sure how to react to it all -- just go with it or ignore the creep because he clearly only wants to talk to me on his time?

A caveat to all this: I date the same guy. Obviously not THE same guy, but I absolutely have a type. I love the "bad boys" -- not the grungy, tattooed bloke but the guy who is on the edge of normal. He does what he wants. He refuses to listen to rules and has the allure of mystery to him. He blows you off sometimes without giving you a reason. I've come to realize that I like the challenge of getting that type of guy. I know I can get the "nice guy" without much resistance, but what fun is that!? I'm not looking for a ring at this point in my life so the bad boy is just the type to go after.

Except that guy tends to break my heart because he can't be tamed. It's a catch 22 -- I want him because he's unattainable but because he's unattainable he'll never truly be mine.

So, in summation, all of the guys I've gone after lately have ended up acting like the stereotypical bad boy. I should know what I'm getting into but for some reason I hope that it'll be different. Stupid, I realize. I just wish boys would communicate better. Say how you feel and cut the bs games. Am I asking too much?