Older men

One of the biggest struggles now that I'm in the "real world" of dating is deciding the age range in which I'm comfortable dating. Sure, there are pros and cons of dating both older and younger men, but I'm still kinda figuring it all out. One thing is for certain: old guys love the youngin's in online dating.

For example, this guy messaged me a few weeks ago with the usual "Hi, how are you, let's meet up" and I thought to myself, "Yah know what, I'm sick of being hit on by guys around my dad's age." So, I straight up asked him: why do men want to date younger women? And this was his reply:

Men are more visually stimulated. You are clearly probably too young for me, but you did pose the interesting combination of being tall and I'm tall and were attractive. But men look at women like art, and the perfection that is youth is not debatable. Additionally, when I look at women my own age I tend to feel they have a lot of issues to begin with. They come at you with a lot of pre-ordained notions and will immediately lay down numerous ground rules and they aren't changing. In many cases its almost like prejudice in the literal sense of the word. Meeting a younger woman you think they are a blank slate they are not going to be difficult and have issues. They are going to be up for fun and seeing what happens, they are going to be spontaneous. Sadly Older people are set in their ways, I bet even your Dad is.

Sadly for me, I am very young at heart and have that spontaneous attitude but at my age, people my age that is, don't like that.

So that is it, men look at women see beautiful art works and say, that comes with no issues or baggage and she is amazing too look at, etc. If I were this age and married I would not leave my wife for a younger woman but since I have not married I don't feel bad asking out a younger woman. That said, I completely understand it from your end as well.

Really interesting stuff here. I get that all men want to be with beautiful women, but where is the boundary between appropriately aged beauty and this concept of unending youth? Women have enough pressure put on them by society, and each other for that matter, to be beautiful 24/7, and men are adding to it.

He's also assuming that younger women don't come with emotional baggage or their own issues. HE IS CRAZY. Most women my age don't know what the hell they want and are whiny, needy, and downright bitchy. Some may be carefree, as he suggests, but I think he's giving us a little too much credit.

Did his response persuade me to go out with him? No. But it did give me a little bit more understanding as to the inner workings of an old fart's mind.