Thursday, August 19, 2010

First online dating experience: OkCupid

Because I'm terrified of the fact that I'm 22 and alone (how stupid, really) I decided that I must fill my men-void immediately. Since I live in a town where I practically know no one, except for my ex which doesn't exactly count, I decided to join an online dating site.

Instead of joining match.com or eHarmony I opted for Okcupid.com -- purely because it's free and I'm cheap. And I don't want to commit to a dating site just yet just in case I hate it.

I recieved a bunch of messages from a wide array of guys -- some attractive, some not so much.

This one guy and I start talking and he seems pretty legit from his profile. 30, smart, ambitious: perfect. We make a date to go to Starbucks. When date night finally rolls around I get a text from him telling me that he'll be 15 min late. Strike one. When he finally arrives and we go in, I order a chai tea latte and he gets...a water. Now I'm sorry but you asked me on a date to get coffee. I was annoyed. AND he didn't even offer to pay for my 3 dollar tea! If you really want to make an impression on a first date, the guy should at least offer to pay. And for the love of God it was 3 bucks. Strike two. When we sit down I realize this guy looks NOTHING like he did in his profile pictures (they were cute and in real life he just wasn't). And he stared at me awkwardly when he talked -- not like a casual gaze but a full on stare. Then I found out that he still lives at home and I died a little inside. Why do all guys still live at home!? Strike three. I could not get out of there fast enough.

He texted me the following day and few times that week and I didn't respond. To be honest, I didn't know how to let him down easily. At the end of the day rejection sucks and I didn't want to be mean. I thought he'd forget about me... but he didn't. Finally I send him a text that said "hey, you seem like a really nice guy but i just didn't feel a connection when we hung out. best of luck to you!" I thought that was a very nice way to say "I'm just not that into you." He didn't respond. Another one bites the dust.

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